It's not easy.......

Hi everyone,

Some of you have been reading this weblog since the last few days. But I guess you guys thought those were mere words. Now here I am with some harsh words for you people, specially the so called STUDS of IIT….

Well you guys consider yourselves to be great studs, ‘coz you can gulp down 7 pegs of whiskey and 3 bottles of beer. And what else? What else do you do? You didn’t drink when you came to this place, because of your family values, because of the way you have been brought up. Then all of a sudden there’s this great transition. You wanna become someone else …someone, so why not a stud? So you go to B......., and grab a sutta. It all starts there. Someone teaches you to smoke. You start with one brand and then you switch brands, and increase the number. Then you find a companion to your sutta. The so called IIT campus has a lot of sutta and booze outlets and you can easily go and get some, even if you are not of the legal age.

Then you go to 2nd year. You are ragged, and your seniors treat you, treat you at P., at T., and pass on a culture, a culture which says, “Drink, drink and drink”. You get high and enjoy, and then you go to another treat and again drink there. But what after some days? You don’t have anymore treats. So you go out and spend the hard earned money of your parents and get some booze for yourself again. Once, twice, thrice- sometimes even the count does not exist.

Then you become a senior and now you are the one to pass on the culture. You do it and then in your final year, you again drink, drink and drink; not knowing that someone, somewhere would be getting hurt, directly and indirectly….

Now you join a job and your 2k pocket money changes to 30k in hand. So what do you do? Drink, drink and drink. You increase your drinks. You go to pubs, late night parties and drink, drink and drink, not knowing what can happen. You drink, and you drive, and you are hit. May be you are saved one time. But my dear friends, luck is not always on your side. And you are hit badly one day …and you die …you leave this world …but you leave a hell lot of memories …helpless parents, who do not even know what happened ....and how …crying friends. You won’t be there, but the people around you will be. It’s not easy for them to hear their friend being referred to as a dead body. It’s not easy for them to not talk to a friend, their best friend lying in front of them…but not talking. It’s not easy for a father to light his own son’s funeral pyre......it’s not easy for a mother to forget her beloved son....it’s not easy for a brother to loose all the support he had from a friend-cum-brother.....it’s not easy …..it’s not easy to forget someone ….Just put yourself in that place and imagine. This can happen to anyone. So why let it come? It’s all in our hands, right? We want our families to be happy, right? So the choice is in your hands…. Do what you want to do. But then just remember what I said …It’s not easy…

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Goodbye

Well I just wanted to say that,well, I'm not going to write again. I had been writing in the hope that it would help someone, but now I don't think it will. People need a stronger reason to give up alcohol than the misfortunes of some unknown person in some remote corner of the planet. So I am going to make this my last blog.

Before I go, I would like to share one more story with you-it's about two kids I know. Their parents were friends of my parents, and the father was in the same college as my father. We lived in the same town, so we had practically grown up together-the two kids and me and my sister. Well, their father was an alcoholic. The reason he started on alcohol, from what I heard, was that his career was not doing well. So he started drinking and his career slipped further, and then he drank even more.

I remember, once when we were visiting them, the parents went to one room and sent all us kids out to play in the courtyard. Then the younger one told us,"Papa daaru pi rahe hain(father is drinking)". Imagine hearing that from a kid. He must have been, what, six years at most?

Well, the father gave up drinking after some time, due to the continued efforts of his family and friends, but he had a relapse some years later, and he shot himself. I met this same kid again some time ago(I don't live in town anymore). Guys I can't describe the expression on his face to you-there was pain, sorrow, suffering written all over it. Suffering, that could have been avoided. I wish I could've said something to help him, anything at all, but I didn't have anything to say. He was eighteen years old then, four years younger than me, and he had already seen more of life and known more sorrow than any of us.

This blog is dedicated to him and kids like him all over the world, but specially to him. I hope he finds peace in life.

please help......

How many friends have to die before you do something to stop the monster? Everyday so many new kids get introduced to alcohol, drugs, cigarettes; how many of them have to die before you would open your eyes? Would it have to become an epidemic before you do something about it?

We never think we’re susceptible, do we? It’s others who fall victim to such things; but we and our loved ones and our friends are within this impregnable fortress that death can’t penetrate. And anyways, the harmful effects of alcohol, drugs ‘n all are all long term, right? They can’t hurt you immediately, can they? Reality check dude- even right now someone you love, maybe your own kid brother or sister, may be contemplating his or her first glass of liquor. And no, the effects are not necessarily long term. An overdose of heroine, a drunken-driving accident, lung cancer, they cause death pretty fast.

Please, and this is a really very sincere request, speak out against alcoholism. Tell your parents, your kids, your siblings, your friends. Tell them to just say ‘No thanks’. Tell them it’s not cool to drink. Tell them it makes you worry when they drink. Tell them you love them. Tell them you don’t, ever, wanna have to miss them.

If they are willing, tell them to go to an AA meeting (that’s Alcoholics Anonymous). The AA hold their meetings in almost every part of the country, in every country. Here’s a link to their page:

http://www.aagsoindia.org/messages.htm