It's not easy.......

Hi everyone,

Some of you have been reading this weblog since the last few days. But I guess you guys thought those were mere words. Now here I am with some harsh words for you people, specially the so called STUDS of IIT….

Well you guys consider yourselves to be great studs, ‘coz you can gulp down 7 pegs of whiskey and 3 bottles of beer. And what else? What else do you do? You didn’t drink when you came to this place, because of your family values, because of the way you have been brought up. Then all of a sudden there’s this great transition. You wanna become someone else …someone, so why not a stud? So you go to B......., and grab a sutta. It all starts there. Someone teaches you to smoke. You start with one brand and then you switch brands, and increase the number. Then you find a companion to your sutta. The so called IIT campus has a lot of sutta and booze outlets and you can easily go and get some, even if you are not of the legal age.

Then you go to 2nd year. You are ragged, and your seniors treat you, treat you at P., at T., and pass on a culture, a culture which says, “Drink, drink and drink”. You get high and enjoy, and then you go to another treat and again drink there. But what after some days? You don’t have anymore treats. So you go out and spend the hard earned money of your parents and get some booze for yourself again. Once, twice, thrice- sometimes even the count does not exist.

Then you become a senior and now you are the one to pass on the culture. You do it and then in your final year, you again drink, drink and drink; not knowing that someone, somewhere would be getting hurt, directly and indirectly….

Now you join a job and your 2k pocket money changes to 30k in hand. So what do you do? Drink, drink and drink. You increase your drinks. You go to pubs, late night parties and drink, drink and drink, not knowing what can happen. You drink, and you drive, and you are hit. May be you are saved one time. But my dear friends, luck is not always on your side. And you are hit badly one day …and you die …you leave this world …but you leave a hell lot of memories …helpless parents, who do not even know what happened ....and how …crying friends. You won’t be there, but the people around you will be. It’s not easy for them to hear their friend being referred to as a dead body. It’s not easy for them to not talk to a friend, their best friend lying in front of them…but not talking. It’s not easy for a father to light his own son’s funeral pyre......it’s not easy for a mother to forget her beloved son....it’s not easy for a brother to loose all the support he had from a friend-cum-brother.....it’s not easy …..it’s not easy to forget someone ….Just put yourself in that place and imagine. This can happen to anyone. So why let it come? It’s all in our hands, right? We want our families to be happy, right? So the choice is in your hands…. Do what you want to do. But then just remember what I said …It’s not easy…

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Asking for help is not a sign of weakness

If you have a drinking, smoking or drugs problem, please ask for help- from your family, friends, teachers, anyone. It is not a sign of weakness, asking for help. Instead, it shows how strong you really are from inside. It takes a brave man(or woman) to seek support.

You can find the locations for AA meetings here:

http://www.aagsoindia.org/location.htm

Alternatively, you can call one of these helplines:

• National Addiction Research Centre (NARC), Mumbai
  (022) 65834605
  
  
• T.T. Ranganathan Clinical Research Foundation (TTK Hospital), Chennai
  (044) 24918461 / 2948
  
  
• NIMHANS De-Addiction Centre, Bangalore
  (080) 26995360
  
  
• Hope Trust, Hyderabad
  (040) 23396339 / 23327973
  
  
• National Institute of Behavioural Sciences (NIBS), Kolkata
  (033) 22469662 / 22865203
  
  
• AIIMS De-Addiction Centre, Gurgaon
  (0124) 2788974 / 8

Or, check out these sites. These also have a lot of information:

• http://www.muktangan.org/links.html
  
  
• http://www.gatewayforindia.com/medical/health/drug-rehabilitation.htm
  
  

You know, when I found this information, I thought about how different our lives would have been if I had found it sooner. Then I thought- would I have had the guts to tell him that he needed expert help? You see, I was a bit scared of him. He was much older than me, he was my senior, like an older brother and his friends told me he could have one hell of a temper. He never got angry with me, but still I was damn scared of annoying him. Moreover, if I ever dared bring up the topic of smoking or drinking in his presence, he would give us a look that said that I had crossed some unknown boundary, and I would shut up immediately. He wanted to give it up himself, but he didn't like to talk about it.

It is only now that I realize that I shouldn't have shut up, that I should've risked his anger. All of us should have.

Guys, don't make the mistake we made.Trust me, you don't wanna go about feeling somehow responsible for your best mate's death, or ruin.

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